...to make a blessing seem like a burden?
I've been doing some thinking lately (dangerous, I know!). If God says children are a blessing, then we should view them that way too, right? This whole concept that babies cost too much and it's irresponsible to have a lot of kids is completely opposite of God's point of view. If God says that children are a blessing, who are we to argue with Him about that? Also, if God loves children (and we know He does!), then God will take care of a family (who is trusting Him) who really can't afford to have a baby, but has one anyway.
These are just some thoughts I've had recently. It could be the "baby fever", but I really feel like I don't want to hinder a blessing.
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I don't think it's just baby fever...it's the truth. Can't do much about it without your husband on board though.
ReplyDeleteIt is absolutely true that babies are a blessing. People who discourage probably mean well...they are just looking at the practical side of the IMMENSE responsibility and some babies are more expensive than others because of health problems. I agree with Katy-Anne, too, the husband and wife MUST be on the same page because otherwise it would be a great strain on a marriage. Having a baby changes the relationship enough as is, and if you're not in agreement about it then it wouldn't be good or right.
ReplyDeleteOne thing's for sure, my husband and I are in agreement about this issue. He's a little more cautious about it (only because of the financial side), but he'd be thrilled if we found out I was pregnant anytime soon.
ReplyDeleteI know about the practical side. I also know that there is no way anyone is fully prepared for having a baby before they do. It's like being a wife, no woman is completely prepared for everything involved in being married until it happens. It's a learning experience for everyone.
*sigh* Guess it is just the baby fever. Maybe I should hope for it to go away.
Do you want your Dad's input?
ReplyDeleteOne thing is your mother never had it with you.
Never had what? baby fever?
ReplyDeleteGo ahead and give your input. :)
She never had baby fever with you. Your choice of at home birth was something I wished for your mom but I never brought it up because she was the type to lean on doctors.
ReplyDeleteAs your dad I would recommend waiting till you had some supplimental insurance because it would help a little. Just in case you do go to the hospital the cost would be at least $3000 to $11,000. Your birth was approx. $8000 and your sister was $11,000 now you have birthing centers which were just getting started 20 years ago.
I did not want to mention that part but that is the part your husband carries as a burden of what to do. Yes trust the Lord but remember he also gave us common sense.
ReplyDeleteIf you can wait you have time remember we did not have you right out of the gate. I went to work for Albertson's and got great insurance the day after our 1st year anniversary.
Then I carried the insurance after I went to work for Pepsi.
You don't have to listen to this ... it was more for FYI if you did not know.
By the way, Mom was making back in 1985-86 $2.90 an hour and Dad was making $3.10 back then. Fuel was $1.35 a gallon.
Does Aflac cover home birth though? If it does we would totally go for that option, since we'd probably end up making money on having the baby (since home birth is so inexpensive).
ReplyDeleteIt is a hospital and sickness policy it covers doctors visit sick or well. One client I know had the baby at a birthing center and was charged $800 Aflac paid $2089 and they had the policyfor only 11 months. The policy remember pays you so if you get a bill you submit a copy and Aflac will send you a check for the coverage. One catch is you must have the policy in effect 10 months before the birth. Are you going to a doctor during the pregenacy then you would get money even during the time.
ReplyDeleteI will look into how midwifes get paid. You will be using the policy unless you never will go to a doctor. Birthing centers are not hospitals but will have access just in case.
ReplyDeleteMom wanted me to tell you she was scared to have kids it was your dad's big idea to have you. Your mom was very scared but not with your sister's time. My job was harder with you but it wsa easier when I talked your mom into your sister.
the man and his wife recieved the actual $2985 for the birth of their baby.
ReplyDeleteSo does that mean they had $800 out of pocket, or was that part of the $2985 that Aflac covered?
ReplyDeleteThis midwife I emailed said that she only charges $1600 for the whole package deal, that includes all the appointments with her before the birth (instead of going to a doctor at a clinic). It also includes all the supplies for the home birth.
That's why I really want to know if there's any way to get Aflac to cover the home birth. It's definitely the most cost effective way to have a baby and the most natural. Friends that have had their babies this way told me that they would never have a hospital birth because they love having their babies at home. :)
they werecharged $800 for the birthing center then got a check back from Aflac for $2895 in a week after submitting a copy of the master bill.
ReplyDeleteAs of tonight I went to my Aflac college course to look for midwifes and found no mention. Just routine doctor visits well baby checks and more.
One last thing child. Your Life insurance has some cash value in it you can use it to by some insurance enough for most of the years policy. This can be borrowed from you without closing the policy.
ReplyDeleteI did this so that you can have something for this type of situation.
Facebook account I disabled it because I thought I could have some network of somesort for getting steady work.
I did not sell anything on Monday and I was not in a great mood.
I don't think doing a home birth because of cost is a great idea. You need to be in a position financially to be okay if complications happen and you and/or baby need to be hospitalized. The idea that bad things do not happen to Christians is just not true. That said, I hope things work out for you.
ReplyDeleteAnd babys do cost money...bringing them into the world is just the beginning!!
Nurse Bee, if I do have a home birth, I can assure you that it's not because of the money. I understand that babies cost money, but I've seen God provide for us in ways that shouldn't be possible. Before my husband and I got married, we both thought I would have to get a job in order for us to survive financially, but a whole year has gone past and we've survived without me having a job this whole time. We've also gone through several months where my husband was unemployed and we couldn't pay the bills, but God always provided and we always had a roof over our head and food to eat.
ReplyDeleteI know that if we have a baby, even if we "can't afford it", God will provide for us. He always does.
I was responding to your comment about home birth being "the most cost effective way to have a baby." I am sure that there are many positive things to be found about home birth online. But please take the time to do some research and read up on the risks as well.
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't hurt to be financially prepared to have a baby. It doesn't mean you aren't trusting the Lord. Having a baby is stressful, so being a little prepared may help ease the transition.