... will we ever be able to afford to have children??? I'm the kind of person that doesn't want to do something that costs money unless it's a wise decision, and right now it looks like we won't be able to even come close to affording to have a baby for at least another year or two (and that's if Vince's job stays consistent and we can get out of some debt). I guess that's not a really long time (this last year went by REALLY fast) but I'm just so impatient.
Also, where is the balance between being responsible with your money and waiting till it's the right time financially, and just trusting the Lord?
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Child, remember this I felt the same way about having you. I trusted the Lord and I wanted days so I could be at home for you at night. I remember paying out for insurance about $280 a month to keep my insurance for your mom's sake and I was only bringing in $1250 a month then in 1988. Today you and Vince can pay about $78 a month and you can get cash at birth 10 months before a baby from Aflac of appox. $3200 I had a client who did it. So there is a way for you two to have a child. I think most parents can tell you that if we all said we will wait till we can afford it. this would never happen. Pray about it.
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ReplyDeleteI've thought of the fact that anyone who waits till they can afford it will never have kids...and I talked to Vince about it and we're going to just trust the Lord on it. If the Lord wants us to have a baby sometime soon it'll happen, but He can also keep a couple from having a baby if it's not the right time. So... we'll just see what happens. Thanks for the comment. :)
ReplyDeleteYou already know what we think. We "couldn't afford" to have any of our babies. But God gave them to us and we are now "affording them" just fine. I really honestly think that we need to trust God with these issues instead of trusting in our own wisdom.
ReplyDeleteI think the best thing you can do is to stop worrying and thinking about it. Just let the Lord have His will and way in your life as you do with all other issues. Stress can keep you from getting pregnant and also hurt you if you do get pregnant. Just stop worrying and enjoy your life as it is right now and whenever God blesses you with a baby He WILL provide a way for you to take care of that baby.
ReplyDeleteKatherine, One last thing the baby will come in time. Remember just enjoy Vince and enjoy getting closer to him. When you have the extra time between having a baby it will make you know Vince better and vice versus. We waited about 1.5 years from July 85 and it was when I got my Albertson's job when we planned you you did not com in 87 you came in 88. Your mother said the same thing then. I told her to just plan to work part time to get her mind off it. She found work had the orientation planned then found out you were on the way on your Aunt Trina's birthday.
ReplyDeleteJust to let you know you are not alone.... Lave Dad
No, you will never be able to "afford" a child. If you wait until the perfect time is here, you will never have any children.
ReplyDeleteWhen we got pregnant with our first, I had a $40/week allowance for all of our groceries, household items, clothes, etc. - basically everything other than rent and bills. We were very poor, we never once went out to eat for three years (unless someone else paid), and we had just enough gas money to get to church and back and to the store once a week. My husband even walked to work. Our only furniture was what others had given us. But God blessed us, and by his grace, we now have five wonderful children, not one of which we could afford at the time I got pregnant.
The Christian life is lived by faith, just like we get saved by faith. By faith we obey the Bible and trust that God will take care of us, and He ALWAYS has and always will. Looking back, it is easy to see how God has been with us and blessed us, but at the time, it really seemed like we stepped out on a limb many, many times.
Having children is the greatest blessing in life. If God does not think you should have a child right now, you will not become pregnant. If you do, He has promised to provide all your needs. "Needs" is different from "wants", but I am glad we were poor when we were young and I had time to just play with our oldest. I often tell my children that I would rather live out of my car or in a cardboard box under a bridge with them than in a mansion without them, and I really do mean it.
You both should pray about God revealing His will to you through the Bible.
Thanks for the encouragement, Zsuzsanna. Since Vince and I got married it seems this whole year has been a lesson on trusting God. I guess I'm just a little scared to just "jump in" and get pregnant without any kind of insurance, but I did find out that the midwife would work out a payment plan based on our income so I'm happy to know that. It definitely is something to pray about.
ReplyDeleteRead Psalm 127.
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